Tips for Safer Online Dating

Are you finding a compatible partner on internet? Or only having fun while dating online? Then you have found the best place – Internet. You are aware of the fact that Internet is a very savvy place to surf and socialize. But sometimes a little mistake from your side can be disastrous, especially when you are finding a date or having a casual flirt. So go through the safety tips to be followed while you dating online.

1. Keep your personal information private- Does a website pops up to fill a free email account to let you chat or send instant messages. Then you must know that a single bit of your personal information could let anybody to intervene in your personal life.

2. Keep your Facebook and Twitter info safe- While posting any personal information or any additional information on Facebook or Twitter keep a record of it. In case you forget anything, then your personal data could be handy.

3. Do not use familiar screen names- Never ever use such screen names that can help in guessing your personal identity or local address. You have the choice of keeping your identity anonymous and tell only those whom you trust.

4. Install Anti-Security check- It is beneficial to install anti-security check so as to protect your personal information. This will also help in keeping your personal information safe as well nobody will be able to access your private data.

5. Do not pay heed to threatening e-mails- All online dating users should not respond or react to any threatening, annoying or harassing emails.

6. Do not make calls from your personal number- You have to call somebody? As a protective measure, use your office number or Local phone booth. It is your responsibility to protect your identity while finding love through a dating website.

7. Have consistent check- It is very important to double check the information provided by anonymous online dating users. Do not have a blind faith just because you are in search of true love.

8. Is it really them in the photograph? – Beware of any photograph sent by any online dating user as it may not them in the photograph. It must be any random image picked up from the internet.

9. Are you be harassed by online dating users? – Online dating might be fun but at some note you can land in trouble. So if you find yourself in this situation then immediately call the police.

These are some simple tips to be used when dating online. Though dating online is fun and easy too but you need not reveal yourself truly unless you want to. Many hawkers are out there in the internet savvy world who can pose threat to you. So be aware about online dating and also about precautionary steps to be taken when you are in search of love on internet.

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When Your Relationship Turns Black and Blue

Being in love is one of the greatest feelings in the world. You are with the person you love, the one you want to spend your entire life with, and the one who you cannot see yourself living without. Every day it feels great to wake up with him or her lying next to you. Everything is going well that you cannot even see what is starting to happen next. The man or woman who you thought was the one for you becomes the worst thing that has happened to you.

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Physical abuse is one of the most difficult forms of abuse to deal with. You feel alone, trapped, and afraid in your own house. You are afraid to tell someone, you pretend that everything is fine, and you begin blaming yourself for the way he or she treats you. Being in an abusive relationship is not the easiest relationship to be in. I believe majority of women and men are embarrassed to admit to a friend or family member that they are being abused by their significant other.

You start to believe your lies that everything is fine. You want to hold on to this man or woman for the public eye. There are many women who do not want to be alone; however, there are plenty of men who thinks the y need a woman in the household. When the mind starts to believe that, that is when you start to suffer. There are many single people in the world today who loves being single and spending times with friends. Nothing is wrong with being a single man or woman. Being single can mean that you are waiting for the right one to come along. It does not mean that something is wrong with you.

Another form of abuse is emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is the worst form of abuse in my opinion. Emotional abuse is when your significant other tries to control you through fears, humiliation, and physical abuse. No one deserves to be treated like that. No matter how old you are or how young you are, there is always an option. There is always a choice to be made. He or she will only do what you allow them to do. He or she may call you stupid, lazy, and make you feel that you are useless. He or she may belittle you in front of your friends or his or her friends. If you continue to let them abuse you physically, verbally, or emotionally, he or she will continue to do so. No matter what form of abuse you’re going through; you should never allow anyone to treat you like you do not matter.

A Relationship is a normal part of life and sometimes it can take all of our energy. There are times when a person is in a relationship and he or she is afraid of leaving. We all have that intuition when a certain relationship is not going to work. However, if the person is afraid of his or her partner, leaving may not sound like the easiest thing to do. Although, making the proper plans can ensure a safe exit out of the relationship. When you are in an unhealthy relationship and are afraid to leave, you have to make the decision to find the best time to leave. Confiding in a sibling, friend, or counselor is a sure way to let someone know what you are planning. The best time to leave is when your partner is not around. If he or she is not around, that is the best time to make your getaway. I know it will be hard to leave certain things behind, but pack your important stuff and get out of there. Being in an unhealthy relationship for a long time can damage a person’s self-esteem. He or she may start to believe the things his or her partner is telling them. Always remember that you do not have to do this alone. If you need help, all you have to do is seek it. Life is too short to be unhappy in an unhealthy relationship.

Interracial Dating: Why You Should Support It

Countless arguments have been made regarding interracial relationships. Some are for it and some are against it. Those who are against it have a wide range of reasons.

These arguments have divided families, friends, and cultures for years and the problem still exists today. While I am not here to judge anyone regarding their opinion of interracial dating, I am here to give my opinion based on my personal experience and observations.

For the record, and just in case anyone has the need to know, I am a black woman (married to a black man) who is in support of interracial relationships and all those who are bold enough not to let themselves be defined by the opinions of others.

I believe that many of you would agree that by far, the most criticized of interracial relationships is that of a black man and a white woman. Either the parents of the black man do not approve of their son dating a white woman or the parents of the white woman are not pleased with her selection of a black man.

I have also heard many people argue that a black man only wants a black woman when he has nothing and this changes when he has made a name for himself. My belief and observations tell me this is NOT true. There are many successful black men that are married to beautiful black women (i.e. President Obama).

When I reflect on this issue, my thoughts go to a darker time in black history when black men were literally beaten and murdered for showing interest in a white woman. We now live in a new day where things are not perfect but thanks to God and the blood, sweat, and tears of our ancestors, they are better.

My opinion of this is that if a black man can be free to date a woman that he chooses to date without fear for his life than I am in support of that action. While some feel that a black man who chooses to date a white woman is a sign of him rejecting black women, I am here to say that I do not now nor will I ever share this opinion.

Let’s just say for arguments sake that there is a minority of people out there who choose to date outside of their race because they feel there is something better on the outside. Then, that is their decision and nothing we should lose sleep over. If that is the way that person feels than that is someone you should not want anyway.

The question that continues to occur to me is: Why aren’t people more concerned about healthy relationships than interracial relationships?

My children are growing up fast and before I know it they will be grown up and involved in relationships with people they deem worthy. My concern for my son as well as my daughters is that they are involved with someone who treats them like the king and queens they are.

FACT: Good people and bad people come from all races and cultures.

Just because I happened to fall in love with a wonderful black man does not mean that I expect my children to only date someone black. I want them to be with someone good.

I believe that having a negative attitude towards interracial relationships cripples us and is an insult to everyone who came before us that fought for equality.

I challenge each and every one of us to look inside ourselves and be honest about our opinions and the reasons behind them. Pray about how God would have each of us to think and feel. Also, pray that our words and actions are a good example for our children, as they really are our future.

My prayer is that regardless of whom you choose to date, marry, or have as a friend, that you accept all who bring something positive to your life and leave behind those who drain you of those same positive things.