Countless arguments have been made regarding interracial relationships. Some are for it and some are against it. Those who are against it have a wide range of reasons.
These arguments have divided families, friends, and cultures for years and the problem still exists today. While I am not here to judge anyone regarding their opinion of interracial dating, I am here to give my opinion based on my personal experience and observations.
For the record, and just in case anyone has the need to know, I am a black woman (married to a black man) who is in support of interracial relationships and all those who are bold enough not to let themselves be defined by the opinions of others.
I believe that many of you would agree that by far, the most criticized of interracial relationships is that of a black man and a white woman. Either the parents of the black man do not approve of their son dating a white woman or the parents of the white woman are not pleased with her selection of a black man.
I have also heard many people argue that a black man only wants a black woman when he has nothing and this changes when he has made a name for himself. My belief and observations tell me this is NOT true. There are many successful black men that are married to beautiful black women (i.e. President Obama).
When I reflect on this issue, my thoughts go to a darker time in black history when black men were literally beaten and murdered for showing interest in a white woman. We now live in a new day where things are not perfect but thanks to God and the blood, sweat, and tears of our ancestors, they are better.
My opinion of this is that if a black man can be free to date a woman that he chooses to date without fear for his life than I am in support of that action. While some feel that a black man who chooses to date a white woman is a sign of him rejecting black women, I am here to say that I do not now nor will I ever share this opinion.
Let’s just say for arguments sake that there is a minority of people out there who choose to date outside of their race because they feel there is something better on the outside. Then, that is their decision and nothing we should lose sleep over. If that is the way that person feels than that is someone you should not want anyway.
The question that continues to occur to me is: Why aren’t people more concerned about healthy relationships than interracial relationships?
My children are growing up fast and before I know it they will be grown up and involved in relationships with people they deem worthy. My concern for my son as well as my daughters is that they are involved with someone who treats them like the king and queens they are.
FACT: Good people and bad people come from all races and cultures.
Just because I happened to fall in love with a wonderful black man does not mean that I expect my children to only date someone black. I want them to be with someone good.
I believe that having a negative attitude towards interracial relationships cripples us and is an insult to everyone who came before us that fought for equality.
I challenge each and every one of us to look inside ourselves and be honest about our opinions and the reasons behind them. Pray about how God would have each of us to think and feel. Also, pray that our words and actions are a good example for our children, as they really are our future.
My prayer is that regardless of whom you choose to date, marry, or have as a friend, that you accept all who bring something positive to your life and leave behind those who drain you of those same positive things.